Putting New Years Resolutions to Rest

Putting New Years Resolutions to Rest

When 2017 started, I dug my toes in and braced myself for what I thought was going to be a ridiculously long, and frankly, challenging year. Being present in my life has allowed me to appreciate life in “real-time”, AKA the present moment. It is crazy to reflect back on the last year and realize how incredibly fast the time went by, even with being present.

So here we are, on the cusp of a brand New Year. I have already started seeing ads for gym membership discounts, listicles on the internet documenting the TOP TEN WAYS TO LOSE WEIGHT THIS NEW YEAR. And it grosses me out, loves. There is nothing wrong with having a healthy relationship with “New Year’s Resolutions”, but I think it’s fair to say most people don’t. Like other monumental women’s movements this year, including the Women’s March, and the Me Too movement, I want to take back the shame surrounding the New Years holiday. I want to see a year dedicated to unconditional self-love and self-care, free from punishment and judgment.

I know this isn’t going to happen overnight. But we can move towards this change! One of the first things I personally have taken on is to refrain from calling resolutions just that. I am now calling them “Goals”. Doesn’t that sound way less intimidating and way more plausible?! Step one – remove the shame that surrounds the holiday.

I also want to briefly mention, we can set goals any day of the year that we want. I know that the New Year feels like a refreshing time to start, but the fact that it is so culturally acceptable to fail at these specific goals can set us up with the mindset that we are destined to fail.  

I wanted to share a few ways to embrace the New Year in a positive way, whether that means you’re setting goals for the New Year or if you aren’t. Women are on an upward momentum right now, let’s embrace ourselves and keep this momentum going.

 

Ways to Maintain A Positive Mindset

 

  • Surround yourself with positive people! Misery does love company, so come prepared with a healthy supportive tribe.
  • Physically smile when you are feeling negative. This recommendation is bizarre, and I would only recommend it if it actually works. There have been times when I look goofy with a huge smile on my face but the immediate effect it has on your mood is undeniable. 
  • Think about your happy place. There is something so simple about maintaining a fresh perspective that can help keep your mindset in check. I know it’s difficult to think about the others that are less fortunate than yourself when you are in a negative attitude, so start with a time when you were feeling happy. Bring yourself back to that joy and remember that everything is temporary.
  • Check the negative self-talk! Once it’s ingrained in yourself it’s hard to stop the negative talk. Bounce every negative thought you can with a positive one. EX: My legs look huge today! Correction: These legs could carry me miles, and through dance-offs, if I ask them to!

 

Healthy Ways to Achieve Those Goals

 

  • Write down your goals – The act of putting goals on paper is a way to set accountability for yourself.
  • Journal how you are feeling. Sometimes we lose touch with what’s really going on in our heads; journaling can allow us to process our thoughts in a more concise way.
  • Read Gretchin Rubin’s book, The Four Tendencies. She discusses how everyone is one of four personality types and how to create habits that will last based on your personality type.
  • Share your goals with others. If you feel comfortable and have a positive support system to do so, this can help you maintain accountability too. Especially if you implement the buddy system and work towards a goal together.
  • Don’t be scared to not meet expectations. It may happen, and the best thing we can do is change our attitude on how we handle these situations.

 

Self-Care Tips

 

  • Try Chromotherapy. With the shorter days, chromotherapy and light therapy can give you some much needed Vitamin D.
  • Try Infrared saunas. This type of sauna is great for those who suffer from chronic pain. Infrared saunas also help the body by increasing the detoxification process and improving circulation. And sometimes it nice to just be alone in a chamber of wonderful heat and light.
  • Practice gratitude. This comes up often, but it’s important to remember what we have right now to be grateful for. Upon waking in the morning, write or think about three things that you are grateful for that  only have to do with yourself. Then progress towards the outward things in your life you are grateful for.
  • Don’t set New Year’s Goals. If you aren’t feeling mentally or physically in a place where you think this will be a good idea, JUST DON’T DO IT <3
  • Taking care of your health issues in an active, healthy, sustainable way. This can be as simple as looking at your life in a more holistic way. Instead of “thirty days to fit”, what are more longterm solutions to help maintain a positive mindset, wellbeing, and balance long-term?
  • Address any realistic physical imperfections that are messing with your confidence, like taking care of acne. Check Out – Clear Skin Unlocked.
  • For finally addressing your PCOS – PCOS Unlocked.
  • For tips on healthy, sustainable weight loss – Weight Loss Unlocked.
  • Check out my process of learning to love myself and the lessons I encountered in my book, Sexy By Nature (find it here).

I share even more tips on self-love and specifically on emotional eating – in this post.

I know this year will be a successful one. Remember, it is okay to not set New Years Goals. It’s also okay to fail if you do set goals. We are all human, let’s remember that! Wishing you lots of luck on your journey towards positive mindset and self-care this year. You are worthy of self-love and care, as much as anyone.

<3

 

 

5 Paleo for Women Approved New Year’s Resolutions

5 Paleo for Women Approved New Year’s Resolutions

Woah, 2017. I can’t believe you are almost here!

At the writing of this blog post I’m pondering the making of new years resolutions.  Are they healthy?  Are they harmful?  Are they something in between?

I’ve gone back and forth, but concluded that, like them or not, new year’s resolutions are a part of our culture, exciting and important motivators that can give someone the push they need to make valuable and lasting changes. 

I’m not into crash dieting (or “diets” of any kind really) and I’m not into resolutions that end up making people feel worse about themselves when they fail to live up to unreasonable standards.

But health IS important, and focusing on feeling better and doing better in the new year is something admirable, after all.

So here’s my list of 5 Paleo for Women Approved New Years Resolutions!

#1 Cook More

Cooking is something I usually despise doing and avoid if I can help it.  But it gets old eating canned salmon all the time.

As the new year begins, take some time to plan a daily schedule.

If you’re a detailed list maker, you’ll love it and if you’re not, you might feel caged in, but sketching out your time might show you ways you can be more efficient and leave room for home cooked meals.

Try buying books with meal and shopping plans already inside for you.  Practical Paleo (find it here) is one of my favorites, because it contains meal plans for every possible variation of paleo.

There are other great books too.  Stick with ones that focus on easy recipes that can be made quickly like Well Fed Weeknights (find it here).  Or try books that utilize less dishes for easier cleanup like One Pot Paleo or Paleo Slow Cooker.

Cooking more will mean eating more veggies, one of the biggest indicators of a healthy lifestyle, and will cut down on the amount of rancid oil, sugar and Omega 6 you eat, making you feel healthier, improving skin and cardiovascular health, and probably helping you lose some weight.

#2 Lose Weight

Speaking of losing weight…

I might catch some flack here.  You see, I believe strongly in body positivity and the body positive movement.  That means I do hold firm to a belief in health at every size.

However, I also believe that weight loss can be a valuable goal for certain people. 

Excessive adipose tissue does produce inflammatory responses in the body and does contribute to a range of health issues.  And whether we like it or not, it IS something that we need to consider in our modern world of convenience foods and obesity related illness. 

If you’ve become out of sync with your body, feel you need to lose excessive body weight (and remember that doesn’t mean you need to be stick thin!) the only real difficulty is finding a way to do it gently, positively, and with as little guilt and shame as possible.

That’s where my weight loss program, Weight Loss Unlocked comes in.

It’s designed to help you lose weight efficiently but mindfully, learning to listen to the natural signals of your body, rather than the mean girl in your head. 

It can help you follow those New Years Resolutions without the fad dieting that normally goes with it.  I’d suggest pairing it with a great paleo cookbook with meal plans like the ones I mentioned above.

Find Weight Loss Unlocked Here

#3 Focus on Self-Love

While most people choose to lose weight at the beginning of the new year, it’s just as important to choose to love.

We often become our worst enemies and meanest critics, beating ourselves up and tearing ourselves down. 

Disordered eating, low self-confidence, so many things stem from not loving ourselves. 

To give and recieve love in the new year, we’ve got to start with healing our own hearts.

There are many, many people out there happy to help you do it.

To discover the sexy, confident woman you really are, try reading my book Sexy By Nature.

If you’ve strugged with disordered eating and are ready to take control of negative thinking, try my friend Kayla’s program Starting the Path to Recovery and Discovery here.  Try reading When Food is Love (find it here), a classic for any emotional eater.

If you’re shy, perhaps try pushing yourself to do something that sounds fun but makes you a bit nervous- go out dancing or join friends at a party. 

And if you’re always out to avoid being alone at home, perhaps try a night in of reflective thinking and journaling (Let it Out is a great resource) and sit with some of those emotions. 

You’ll gain self-awareness and balance which we all could use in the new year!

#4  Breathe More

Breathing is something we do far too often without really thinking about it.

Most of us don’t even use the full capacity of our lungs, but only a tiny portion of them. 

And breathe, just like food, is so important to life itself, and quality of life. 

Improper breathing can do damage to the body just as poor food choices can.

Proper breathing, taking deep, long breaths, and long, smooth exhalations, can also be a form of meditation that has been shown to reduce stress, calm the nervous system and relax the mind. 

It’s an imperative especially for those with anxiety, and may help anyone with stress-flaring conditions like Irritable Bowel Syndrome, autoimmune conditions, and more. 

With the new year, I’m vowing to remember to breathe in positivity and breathe out negativity.  I hope you’ll do the same.

#5 Let Go

And as I work to breathe out negativity, I’m going to be trying my best to let go of anger, expectations, and arbitrary standards I place on myself and others. 

2016 was a hard year for many and it’s easy to pick out the bad things that happened and let them stew and boil within us.

We can focus on that negativity, that anger, and let it fester. 

Or we can consciously make the choice to let it go. 

I don’t have a 3 step program to help you do that (though I’m sure one probably exists!) but I think we should try it nonetheless.

Let’s focus our hearts and minds on the good in 2017 and work for peace, justice, and positivity in the new year.

I will.  I hope you will too. 


What are your new year’s resolutions?

A Perfect Paleo Thanksgiving

A Perfect Paleo Thanksgiving

For my American friends, Thanksgiving is coming soon!

This particular season has been divisive and difficult for many.

The election left some happy, some sad, and some angry.

But Thanksgiving is a time for all of us to come together, to celebrate the uniting quality of gratitude, to spend time with those we love and who love us.

And let’s hopefully remember all that we still have to be grateful for.

The thing I love most about Thanksgiving, besides the time with family, is the delicious, amazing food and the beautiful table.

There’s something magical about it.

But as a person who carefully watches what I eat, many things like stuffing, green bean casserole, and cheesy potatoes are off limits to me.

I admit, I’ll usually make an exception for these big, important holidays.

But even still, I hate the feeling of the morning after, the sugar-gluten hangover is almost as bad as a real hangover!

Okay, sometimes it’s honestly worse!

And that’s why, when I can, I help prepare paleo-friendly Thanksgiving food.

You’d be surprised at how many options are out there to make old favorites with allergen-free ingredients.

I’ve even shared a few recipes that would be great on a Thanksgiving table.  (Like this pumpkin bread for example or any of the many things on this pumpkin spice list)

Two books in particular are great for special occasions and celebration ideas: Gather: the Art of Paleo Entertaining and Celebrations.

Celebrations is by Danielle Walker from Against All Grain, an author who is highly respected for writing some of the best grain-free recipes in our world and covers a whole year of celebration food in her latest book.

It’s AMAZING.  Find it on Amazon here 

Gather: the Art of Paleo Entertaining is by Bill Staley and Haley Mason and sets up the art of the paleo table, making beautiful dishes that are also tasty and help you entertain well and in a way that non paleo folks will appreciate.

If any book will inspire you to cook a full on Thanksgiving feast (which you may or may not later regret!) this is the one.  Find it here.

Even though normally, I’m a no-fuss person with food, on special holidays I really like to make things fun.

I love ceramic bowls and dishes because I love to display all the food family style on the table at Thanksgiving.

Something about a beautiful table makes me so happy during the Holidays!

Like, I mean, how cute would it be to have your pumpkin pie in this PUMPKIN DISH.

Or these KISSING PILGRIM SALT AND PEPPER SHAKERS

I can’t even.

No matter how you like to celebrate the holidays, there’s no reason you have the feel bad eating food you’re intolerant to.

And there’s also no reason to feel guilty if you do.

After all, if holidays aren’t the time to let loose a little and cut yourself a break, when is??

So ENJOY this time of the year, eat ALL THE FOODS, and just decide right now to wear stretchy pants for the rest of the winter.

In the meantime, I’m realizing two things.

First, I can’t wait for Thanksgiving, even if I have to spend it in London and second, I really shouldn’t write anything about food while I’m hungry.

That picture of a turkey is looking reeeeaaaal good right now.

How do you guys celebrate paleo thanksgiving?

 

 

 

Episode ten of Live. Love. Eat. with self-love guru Karly Randolph Pitman has now been posted!

Episode ten of Live. Love. Eat. with self-love guru Karly Randolph Pitman has now been posted!

Episode ten of Live. Love. Eat. has now been posted!  In it I had the enormous honor of speaking with Karly Randolph Pitman, a woman who’s compassion, love, power, and wisdom is nearly palpable in just a skype conversation.  Possibly the podcast that resonates the most with my own story, as well as with what I believe are the most powerful methods and insights for overcoming disordered eating.

In this episode, Karly and I discuss her history with bingeing and restricting, why everyone overeats at night, how marriage can’t fix your brain, and how the question why can ruin your (and nearly ruined my own) life.

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Each episode of Live. Love. Eat. is an interview with someone who has stepped up to share the story of her (or his) relationships with food and with her body.  She may be a disordered eater, he may be a paleo dieter, she may be totally at peace with her body or not.  The whole point being that I can do all of the writing on my blog here that I want, but I will never be able to do something as empowering, comforting, and inspiring as sharing with y’all the beautiful and brilliant lives of others.

Search on iTunes or download and/or subscribe from iTunes here.   We’d appreciate it if you left a review whether you like it or not.

If you’re not into iTunes, click here to download and/or subscribe.

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Karly Randolph Pitman  is in love with the human heart. With a bold goal of creating a world of compassion and belonging – where we’re free to give and receive love – she’s leading a movement to befriend our tender, imperfect human selves.

Karly helps people awaken by embracing every part of themselves with radical compassion. This process heals the roots of compulsive habits, fosters emotional healing, and removes the barriers to love. The result is belonging. Wholeness. Homecoming.

Karly is the creator of growing human(kind)nessTM, an integrative approach to heal the roots of food suffering like binge eating, food addiction, and body hatred – the arena in which she learned about self love. Growing human(kind)nessTM is a map for creating a loving, merciful relationship with your emotions, needs, thoughts, feelings, and precious body itself. This inner work changes how you relate to yourself, how you think about yourself, how you talk to yourself, and how you care for yourself.

Karly has done most of her work on overcoming sugar addiction, most of which can be found here.  To see her most recent work, the 30 Day Lift, a program designed to heal self-love scars and overcome sugar addiction and bingeing in 30 days, go here.

 

 

Live. Love. Eat. Episode Nine with Civilized Caveman and all around Rockstar George Bryant now posted!

Live. Love. Eat. Episode Nine with Civilized Caveman and all around Rockstar George Bryant now posted!

Episode eight of Live. Love. Eat. has now been posted!  In it I had the enormous honor of speaking with George Bryant, an enormously kick ass soul and dear friend of mine, who also happens to be super famous and to run the website Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations, as well as the new e-Cookbook, Caveman Feast.

In this episode, George and I discuss his history with eating disorders, the damaging effects of weight regulation in the military, what it means to be a man with body image issues, the lessons a recent car accident taught George, and why he no longer cares about looking hot.

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Each episode of Live. Love. Eat. is an interview with someone who has stepped up to share the story of her (or his) relationships with food and with her body.  She may be a disordered eater, he may be a paleo dieter, she may be totally at peace with her body or not.  The whole point being that I can do all of the writing on my blog here that I want, but I will never be able to do something as empowering, comforting, and inspiring as sharing with y’all the beautiful and brilliant lives of others.

Search on iTunes or download and/or subscribe from iTunes here.   We’d appreciate it if you left a review whether you like it or not.

If you’re not into iTunes, click here to download and/or subscribe.

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George Bryant is a self-taught chef, cookbook author, and creator of Civilized Caveman Cooking Creations, a Paleo recipe blog with a passionate following and over 30,000 facebook fans.   George believes in having fun in the kitchen and letting your love and happiness come through in your food.

You can also find his brand new e-Cookbook full of delightful photos and recpies, and published with health and fitness tips by another paleo rockstar Abel James, here at Caveman Feast.

 

Episode eight of Live. Love. Eat. is up!

Episode eight of Live. Love. Eat. is up!

Episode eight of Live. Love. Eat. has now been posted!  In it I had the enormous honor of speaking with PfW community member Becky Bateson.  Becky is now at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, after overcoming the battle she began with anorexia at the tender age of 13.

In this episode, Becky and I discuss the nine different outpatient treatment centers she has attended, the power horses have to heal, how lonesomeness can make a child anorexic, and how eating disorders can be overcome with the powers of social love and happy activities.

Each episode of Live. Love. Eat. is an interview with someone who has stepped up to share the story of her (or his) relationships with food and with her body.  She may be a disordered eater, he may be a paleo dieter, she may be totally at peace with her body or not.  The whole point being that I can do all of the writing on my blog here that I want, but I will never be able to do something as empowering, comforting, and inspiring as sharing with y’all the beautiful and brilliant lives of others.

Search on iTunes or download and/or subscribe from iTunes here.   We’d appreciate it if you left a review whether you like it or not.

If you’re not into iTunes, click here to download and/or subscribe.

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Rebecca (Becky) Bateson is the daughter of two Lutheran minsters. She grew up in the Ohio countryside and later moved to Ohio Valley where she ended up attending Bethany College in the “Wild & Wonderful” hills of West Virginia and graduated in 2008 with her Bachelors in Commincation. She had a wonderful experience in college — but struggled to get there. She battled with anorexia from age 13 but is happy to say she has been in healthy happy recovery for almost 8 years. Becky currently lives in Columbus Ohio where she works as a fantastic customer service rep for a great company.  Outside of work — she enjoys being outdoors as much as possible, cooking, cycling, dancing, writing, playing the juke box, funny cat pictures, traveling and recently was able to take her first trip to Europe last Spring. With an interest in nutrition, health, and life long well being she enrolled at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition this spring. She is training to be a health coach and wants to encourage and help those people who struggle with disordered eating, body image, emotional eating, or just need to a jump start with healthy habits. She can be reached at reb.bateson@gmail.com or her webstite www.eatvibrant.com with any questions or just to say hello.