Due to a lovely letter and set of questions I received from a reader last week, I have decided to respond to a set of reader questions about anything on a bi-weekly basis. These questions will also occasionally be devoted specifically to PCOS. Today is the first of the series, huzzah!
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And here we go!
1) I lost my period at about 8 stone 10 pounds. I am 5’5.
Over the many years I have suffered form HA I regained my period on quite a few occasions – sometimes for a few cycles. Previously it was always at that weight that I regained it – and then, like a fool, I would try to lose a few pounds. However, I stopped getting it at that weight nearly two years ago – and I have since gained more weight (I have been 9 stone for nearly 6 months) and I still don’t have my period back.
Is it possible that every time you have your period, and then lose it, your ‘set weight’ at which you get your period back increases? Or do you think it is more to do with the diet I am currently eating/ have eaten before?
In my opinion, the best way to think about amenorrhea is to think of it as an algebra equation. Remember from the 8th grade chalkboard?
aX + bY + cZ + … = Result
Think of X, Y, and Z as variables that affect amenorrhea. X could be weight status, Y could be phytoestrogen intake, Z could be your stress level… other variables might be genetic predispositions, ovarian health, different hormone levels, how much you exercise, what you eat, your micronutrient levels, your degree of sexual activity, your age, whether or not you’ve born children… everything.
Then a, b, c, the multiplying factors, would be how important each of those factors are, and how strongly they are present in your body at any given point in time. With an enormous value at b, you may not have any problems at all save for stress. Or perhaps your stress levels are moderate, but your insulin resistance is moderate, so those two factors coupled together increase your “Result” enough to push it over the edge into amenorrhea.
I find it plausible that as you stress your system more and more, your body requires more and more “help” from other areas in order to have optimal fertility. This does not mean that your set point is increasing– it may be, but I could not ever say for sure– but it does at least mean certainly that variables and stressors on your body are changing shape. Diet is certainly important– but that depends entirely upon what you are eating at any given point in time. Keep the toxins out, eat whole foods (check out my book for more on this), get plenty of calories in all of the macronutrient categories, repeat.
2) Coffee. I am loathe to give it up, and I have mensturated in the past whilst drinking. However, I will stop if this is a big issue. I can’t see any reference to coffee in the manual. Do you have an opinion?
Excellent question! I do have an opinion. I would refer you again to the equation I described above. You may have menstruated while drinking coffee in the past, but perhaps coffee has always been a stressor on your body and you were just able to overcome it at that point in time. Now it may be a stressor that your body is not capable of bearing. I would call this a legitimate concern for women who struggle with stress and adrenal health. If you think your PCOS problems are related to stress, I would consider cutting the coffee. Or at least reducing the intake and seeing if it helps. Coffee has the potential to wreak some very serious havoc on our stress responses (really it prevents the body from calming down) and that can disrupt the HPA (hypothalamic pituitary adrenal) axis. With a dysfunctioning adrenal gland, the hypothalamus and pituitary glands can go off the rails as well.
3) This question is a bit more random – but one Im really interested in.
I am currently married and met my husband a few years ago. When we first got together I began mensturating regularly, although I had suffered with HA before. I also gained a bit of weight so that I was about 8.5 stone, instead of 8. I mensturated for a few months and then lost a bit of weight and lost my period. I have experienced periods ONLY after instances in which I was quite happy about and excited with my sexual situation. I would also regain my periods after shortlived affairs during periods where I was single.
I do realise many factors that come into play; when I engaged in happy sexual activity I would often eat heavily the next day. However I have also done this without getting my period back. I also appreciate that it may be that oestrogen levels peal and I, in turn, become more attracted to people when happily sexual.
Have you ever heard of the theory that oestrogen levels are spiked by sexual attraction? I knew a girl with PCOS who didn’t mensturate, but when she started an affair she started to.
I’ve heard rumors of such things before and I like the theory. A quick (quick!) search through some academic databases hasn’t yielded much, especially because you are asking about sexual attraction rather than sexual activity.
What these women have claimed to me is that “you lose it if you don’t use it” — or at least that it is true in their cases. I haven’t been able to learn much about this scientifically. I can guess, however, how the hormonal cascade might work — dopamine levels, oxytocin levels, and other happy molecules such as serotonin rise relative to baseline when engaged in sexual activity (perhaps to a degree even when just flirting or snuggling.) In fact, it has been shown that snuggling has a very real effect on hormone levels: oxytocin is produced while cuddling and is also known in the popular press as the “cuddle hormone.” So this increase in happiness with a sexual edge may very well be like giving your pituitary gland a hug.
Neurotransmitters such as dopamine and serotonin have not been well studied with regards to PCOS. It has been proposed however that hormones such as LH rise due to the activity of excitatory neurotransmitters such as dopamine. It stands to reason that when you are engaged in sexual attraction, flirtation, feelings of comfort, or feelings of excitement, your dopamine and other excitatory neurotransmitter levels increase. These, in turn, may help boost your pituitary function.
All of which is to say that these things– glands, brains, hormones– are still largely a mystery to us. If you have found a pattern in your life, I suggest running with it. Learn from it as much you can, and do your best to achieve that kind of happiness / pleasantness as much as possible. If it’s good for your heart, chances are quite good that it’s good for your body. Convincing your body you are in prime reproductive condition via regular sexual engagement doesn’t hurt, ever.
4) Over the past six months I have gained weight, stopped exercising and I think I am eating a very nutrient rich diet. I eat lots and lots of eggs, butter, liver and coconut oil. I also dont think I am very stressed. Since my period has not returned – and I am very light boned anyway – I feel like Im now getting stressed. At what stage might would you recommend going on birth control or HRT to protect bones?
That’s definitely something to talk with your doctor about– but I would say when your estrogen levels drop below what is typically established as “healthy” or “dangerous.” That should be indicated on your blood tests, and OBGYNs generally know boatloads about estrogen and bone health standards.
That said, however, there are a wide variety of factors that go into bone health. Also, if your estrogen levels are low only for a short period of time, you may want to discuss with your doctor the possibility that you continue to try naturally before working on the estrogen with HRT. I would not stress about it, personally. That’s largely because I wouldn’t stress about anything so long as I could avoid stressing. Also this is a matter of personal opinion and understanding the risks. What you need to know is that your risk for bone porosity increases as your estrogen levels decrease, but your general health and nutrient status is important, too, and short term fluctuations should be fairly well tolerated by most women. It is also a risk happily born by some women. I don’t recommend that, but I’m not recommending anything here.
5) The final loaded question, which is about calories.
I know it is a question of food quality and not so much of calories. But, like I said, I think I eat a really high quality diet. At 5’5 how many calories would you shoot for as a baseline? After years of undereating, and then a good few months of stuffing myself I think my leptin receptors might not be working that well. I think my metabolism may also be a bit out of whack so it is harder for me to just leave it to hunger or set weight. I can eat about 1200 calories per day and feel satisfied.
Do you have any very baseline calorie recommendations?
It’s interesting that you start with the statement “I know it’s a matter of quality more so than quantity…” Because while that statement may have serious wisdom in it, calorie intake still is vital for women who are type II — that is, under metabolic stress — PCOS.
I understand your problem in calibrating your hunger and trying to figure out how much you should be eating. It’s a struggle for anyone who has dealt with dieting, regimented eating, or even mindful eating in the past. What I would say to you with regard to that is to always err on the side of eating more rather than less, and to never try and “go without” food. If you think you might want to eat, you should eat. Period! 🙂
1200 is a very serious minimum for a woman who is 5’5 and recovering from an issue like Type II PCOS or Hypothalamic Amenorrhea. I would shoot for 1500 at minimum, but honestly push something closer to 2000. The important part is to not just “get by” but rather to be seriously satisfied.
Your metabolism very well may be a bit confused right now. The way to heal that is to eat as intuitively as possible and continually give it as much fuel as it needs– forever. Wild swings in under and over eating can cause weight flucutaitons, sure. A constantly satisfying diet over a long period of time is the only way to assure your body that you are being fed.
You also mentioned a lot of nutrient dense foods, which is awesome. Be sure that you are including some carbohydrate in there. Carbohydrate is the most readily available energy source, and it also happens to be crucial for the production of thyroid hormone. Start with a few pieces of fruit or servings of potato / rice each day and see if that helps you find a bit more balance.
As a quick final note, it is possible that you are finding yourself sated in that fasting sort of way on a ketogenic diet (if you happen to be on one), and therefore severely under-eating how many calories your body truly needs. I speak with a lot of women who confess to eating very few calories but not feeling hungry on ketogenic diets, and then hating adding carbohydrates in their diet because they feel some hunger again. That hunger, however, may be an important signal for a woman dealing with type II PCOS / starvation / hypothalamic amenorrhea. (Honestly I think the claim that carbohydrates beget unreasonable hunger is itself more or less unreasonable, and at the very least a matter of personal context.) Carbohydrate intake is a touchy issue for many people. What I prefer to leave the conversation with, therefore, are a) the fact that many traditional cultures eat high percentages of carbohydrate with no apparent health defects relative to lower carbohydrate cultures, and also b) the notion that personal experimentation with our bodies and hearts is the most important thing for our health and happiness. If you eat carbohydrates and find that your body works better, then they are probably for you.
I’d also really like to finish with the comment that I am willing to try anything I listened to your podcast with Diane and Liz and your words about not over emphasising stress/ adrenal fatigue etc – because 75% of it is diet – made so much sense to me.I know exactly what you mean when you said you would ‘try anything before gaining weight’ – I used to be exactly like that, but I really am not anymore. Now I’m just confused. To kind of summarise I am now half a stone heavier than the weight Ive mensturated at, doing stuff like drinking coconut mlik from the can and no longer exercising. I don’t think I’m picking at the details any more and I would really just value your opinion so much. I have even considered losing a bit of weight – the healthy way! – and then trying to regain it, just to give my body a bit of a shock. Im worried though that would be just like going backwards.
Uh, right. Don’t do that. 🙂 Give your body some love and patience, and trust your body to heal itself. Don’t panic about it. Believe it or not, stress about this, even if it seems like it’s not all that much, really might be a significant factor for your physical health. The fact that sexual attraction has played a role in your menstruation indicates to me that your HPA axis always benefits from some tender loving care. Give yourself a few months and eat intuitively– you may drop weight naturally, or not, but I think you should be totally psyched about being 9 stone and 5’5– that’s a SEXY weight!– and see what happens. Get yourself tested again and see if anything has improved. If not, perhaps revisiting some tests and issues (such as hypothyroidism?) or vitamin supplements would be important at that point.
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